How to Wait as a Single Growing Christian

"Why does God let me stay single?"

Some of you are waiting for the right person to become your significant other but you haven't met him. You've been praying for it. However, you are still waiting.

The word "wait" is one of the few in the English language that has such a strong connotation of dread, frustration, anxiety, and irritation. Because we are in a hurry,, the word "wait" may quickly become synonymous with the word "never"—especially if you're single and trying to live a faith-based lifestyle.

I know because I've been there. While I am writing this blog, I understand the struggles and frustrations related to being single, particularly when it doesn't meet our expectations. It might feel like an eternity, and it's easy to become depressed or bored of waiting.

Waiting isn't a waste of time. It's a period for forming yourself, to find who we really are and grow according to what God has planned for us to be.

All Christian women should embrace the journey and learn about its rewards of waiting. I pinpoint important thoughts in today's blog article that reminds us that singleness is a heavenly season of preparation, not pain.

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1. Learning the contentment

Learning to find contentment while being single is an important journey that involves self-discovery, self-care, and personal growth. Spend some time getting to know who you are and what you are interested in. While being single, you can still cultivate meaningful relationships with friends and family. Invest time in nurturing these connections and building a strong support system. This not only helps you build a fulfilling life on your own but also increases your self-esteem and confidence.

Finding contentment while being single is a journey, and it's okay to have moments of longing for companionship. The key is to focus on building a fulfilling life for yourself, regardless of your relationship status. Over time, you'll develop a stronger sense of self and an appreciation for the joys that come from within.

2. Understanding your reasons

Why do you stay single in the first place? Being single can indeed be a choice.

Many people actively choose to be single for various reasons that suit their preferences, lifestyles, and goals. Some prioritize their personal development, career goals, and self-discovery, and they may choose to be single to fully focus on these aspects of their lives. Being single can offer a strong sense of independence, allowing you to make decisions on their own terms without considering a partner's needs or opinions. It's important to note that people's choices regarding relationships, whether being single or in a partnership, are deeply personal and can vary widely. What matters most is that you make choices that align with your own values, goals, and overall well-being.

3. Prayerfully waiting for him

One of the most frustrating seasons of life might be waiting on God for a future husband. It's easy to get discouraged and question whether God has abandoned us. Even while we are waiting, we may find hope and peace in prayer.

We submit our desires and plans to God in prayer and believe in His time. Cry out to Him to prepare our hearts for our future husband, as well as their hearts for us. As we seek God's will for our life, pray for wisdom and discernment, as well as patience and persistence while we wait for His plan.

4. Purposely turning down ungodly relationships

Not everyone feels emotionally ready for a relationship at all times. Some might choose to wait until they feel they can fully invest themselves emotionally in a new relationship. Negative experiences in past relationships can lead you to be cautious about entering new ones.

After ending a previous relationship or experiencing emotional challenges, you might choose to take time to heal and work on their emotional well-being before entering into a new relationship.

Because you set your standards high, you may have a clear idea of what you're looking for in a partner and are willing to wait for someone who truly aligns with your values and goals. You will intentionally turn down potential partners to avoid repeating past mistakes.

5. Being active in the church ministry

Focusing on church ministry while waiting for your future partner is a meaningful and fulfilling choice. Church communities provide a supportive and like-minded network who share similar values and beliefs. This sense of belonging can help combat feelings of loneliness while waiting for your partner. Being engaged in meaningful activities can shift the focus from waiting to contributing. Engaging in church ministry can lead to personal growth, meaningful connections, and a deepening of one's spiritual journey, regardless of whether or not a romantic partner is on the horizon.

6. Keep making your goals and dreams yours.

Absolutely, keeping your goals and dreams as a priority while you are single is an important aspect of personal growth and self-fulfillment. When you are fully engaged in your own aspirations, you bring a richer and more well-rounded self to any potential future relationship.

While single, you have more flexibility and control over your time, which can be dedicated to pursuing your passions and goals. Being single doesn't mean you have to put your dreams on hold. In fact, this can be an ideal time to invest in yourself, your passions, and your aspirations. When you are dedicated to your own growth and happiness, you'll be better equipped to enter into a future relationship with a strong sense of self and a clear understanding of what you want out of life.

7. Do not let your singleness define you.

Your relationship status is just one aspect of your identity, and there are many other dimensions that contribute to who you are as a person. Relationship status is not what defines your value as a person.

Placing too much emphasis on your relationship status can potentially impact your emotional well-being. By valuing yourself for who you are rather than your relationship status, you're more likely to enter into healthy relationships based on mutual respect and appreciation. Being single is just one chapter in your life's story. It's important to embrace your individuality, pursue your passions, and nurture the various aspects of your identity that make you unique. By doing so, you'll be better equipped to lead a fulfilling life, regardless of your relationship status.

8. Assess the relationship you have with God, and dive into it.

Assessing and deepening your relationship with your faith and spirituality while staying single can be a profound and rewarding journey. Consider what aspects of your spiritual journey you'd like to explore further. Dedicate regular time to prayer, meditation, or contemplative practices. These practices can help you connect with God on a deeper level and bring a sense of peace and clarity.

Embrace the idea of trusting God’s plan and surrendering control over certain aspects of your life. This can bring a sense of peace and acceptance.

Ultimately, deepening your relationship with your faith while staying single can provide a strong foundation for personal growth, inner peace, and a sense of purpose. It can also enrich your overall well-being and prepare you for whatever the future holds, whether that involves a relationship or not.

Final Thoughts:

It is challenging to wait for God's timing. His timetable seldom coincides with the one we want. Even though it might be challenging to wait for, his timing is always perfect.

All of these circumstances might make waiting seem useless at best and excruciatingly agonizing at worst. But what if we were approaching waiting in the wrong ways? What if waiting turned out to be meaningful time in the life of a Christian rather than time wasted?

We perceive waiting as a hardship we must bear in order to achieve our goals. However, God talks of waiting as a method for us to develop when we do not have what we desire. In fact, waiting may be the best opportunity for personal growth you've ever had.